We've talked about people's behavior, particularly behavior that is self-destructive in some professional or personal way, and social scientists and psychologists offer myriad explanations (excuses?) for this ranging from environmental causes ( something else is responsible for my bad behavior) or genetic causes (someone else, my parents, are responsible) or physical causes (I have an illness). The common thread here is, it's not my fault. I'm not responsible.
Covey hits on the truth of where responsibility lies when he talks about a stick where one end is the behavior and the other end is the consequence of that behavior. And, when you choose the behavior, you also choose the consequence that is attached to it. The two cannot be separated.
Society has allowed people, at least in their minds, to separate the two.
What do you think about this idea? If you find some merit to it, what can we do collectively and individually to reconnect, in people's minds, behavior and its consequence?
Having been in private clinical practice for many years I was often beset by the same situation you describe above. So, let's see if I can shed a little light on the issue for you. Now....follow along with me closely now.
Any action (behavior) produces a reaction (consequence)
Any reaction (consequence) produces an action (behavior)
Actions (behaviors) are both neuro-physiological and psychological
Neuro-physiological actions can be both innate and learned.
Breathing, heart beating, blood circulation, swallowing are innate and the reaction is "being alive." :-)
Being alive (reaction) produces, or is conducive to, producing other actions. For example, being alive permits you to
walk, to laugh, to cry, to hit someone, etc. In these examples we all have the action or behavior "capability" and we
select how to use them and the reactions they might produce. Now here is where it gets tricky so keep up with me.
This job assesses how people refuse to accept responsibility for their actions.